The Love Dare: Day 1

I have recently watched the movie Fireproof and absolutely loved it.



The primary plot concerns Caleb, the husband of Catherine, in a last ditch effort to save their marriage by taking The Love Dare. The Love Dare is a book that has a dare/challenge for each of 40 consecutive days. Each day also has a relevant biblical verse. The results in the movie were really moving.

Although I don't think my marriage to Dom is in any danger whatsoever, I thought taking the challenge might enhance our relationship and give me some clues to the things I could do better. I am challenging myself to do each of the 4o days and blog about it. I downloaded The Love Dare book for the Kindle (love the instant gratification) and am on my way.

Day 1's challenge was to not say anything negative to your spouse. I have to admit I both had it easy and had a difficult time today. I had breakfast with friends early this morning then Dom left for work shortly after I got home. He didn't get home until 10:00 tonight. So, my actual face time with him today was minimal, which is almost like cheating.

I have to admit that I often take things out on him and seem to pick a fight when I am cranky or have had a bad day. About an hour before Dom got home from work tonight, I got word that my aunt died this evening. In addition to being sad for her family, I also started to feel the anxiety of what this would mean to my schedule this week. I have work AND vacation bible school each evening. This will really throw a monkey wrench into things. How's that for selfish?

Anyway, this is a situation in which I would normally be just cranky and look for something to say. I tried very hard to be kind and polite in the two hours or so we were awake together. I had to apologize about 4 times. I think I did OK, all things considering. Now, I have to do this for 39 more days. I need to find some kind words!!

Today's verse was:
James 1:19 Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.


Up tomorrow:

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.